Comparing Destroys Self Confidence
Everyone is guilty at some stage of comparing themselves to a neighbor, sibling or friend. It is human nature and something that we all do without even thinking about it.
These thoughts and comparisons will generally set you up for failure and can make a major dent in your self confidence. Remember how the teacher always said compare apples to apples and oranges to oranges? Well the same is true with people. Not everyone has had the same chances, privileges and backgrounds in life that would have given an equal chance of success. Some people have suffered setbacks while others seem to have everything handed to them on a plate and that makes it near impossible to compare your success with that of others fairly. When making comparisons you should only compare only your past and present. If you choose to critique your past then that’s fine, but learn from any mistakes and make the best of it. If you sit and mope about what could have been or should have been you are spinning your wheels and therefore not making progress. By learning from mistakes and hard times we can build on knowledge and make the most of any future chances that are presented. We learn as we go and if we get stuck in a particular time, it can easily bury us. Another important lesson in self confidence building is the that what you see on the surface may not always be a truthful reflection. Think about the families that we assume have it all, wealth, health and fame. We long to be them and have all the extras that they have, comparing our stupid mistakes to their smart decisions. But then it happens...the carpet gets yanked from under them and their dark side is exposed. That’s right everyone has a dark side and you should never believe otherwise. No one has a perfect life and they are lying if they say that they do. Everyone has problems and a skeleton or two in their closet, you just may not see them. In fact, quite often these individuals are looking over the rainbow and seeing that pot of gold in someone else’s backyard! So instead of being envious of something that someone else has achieved, be grateful for what you have achieved in life. You are blessed for what you have and should remember that there are a great deal of people far worse off. When you feel sorry for yourself or get down because you think that nothing is going for you, how about taking a trip to a children’s hospital or homeless shelter to put things back into perspective. Those folks have it really tough, but typically never gripe!
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