Walking The Line To Greater Self Confidence
Have you ever wondered how some people seem to have all the confidence? They can weather any storm without even breaking a sweat.
Do they have something that the rest of us do not? The answer is no, but they do do something different and we will look at what that is within in this article. No matter what you call it or how you feel about it, all of us have an imaginary line on the inside of us. No, it does not divide us in half and if you talk about your line to your friends you will likely be the butt of the jokes but here is how it works. This line represents our limitations, strengths and keeps us performing in our everyday life. The line is set in motion by our brain and feelings and for most shy people they live their life never nearing that line because of embarrassment, shame or just plain fear. Confident people, on the other hand, frequently go right up to the line and don’t fear going past it outside of their comfort zone. So how do you change this line? 1. You must understand your boundaries. By this time in your life you should have figured out your breaking point. Avoid those people, situations or environments that make you lose your cool. They will send you to a place where you feel insecure and uncomfortable making you resort back to your shell. 2. Understand that this line that you are walking in life is set in place by your past experiences and how you perceive new situations. If you have had bad experiences your brain sets that line way back away from harms way to keep you from being hurt or embarrassed. You must change the placing of that line by reworking that experience. Learn from past mistakes and learn that just because you enter into that situation again does not mean that you will fail again. If you never try or speak out that is what makes it a failure. 3. Take into consideration that this line can be a protection for your ego, but it can also be a detriment to your person. If you never push that line, or step outside you will likely live your life in a silent position. You must be willing to take those past uncomfortable places or failures and turn them into a success story. Think about the people that were homeless and sleeping in their car and then became millionaires. If they would have said do you think they would have ever found a successful place in life? The answer is no! They were willing to take that chance and learn from their past mistakes! Try – Try and Try Again and success is around the corner! And remember, the more you do something you are uncomfortable with the more familiar it will become and the more confident you will be at it in the future.
Return from The Confidence Line to The Confidence Center
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