Self Confidence And Dealing With Mistakes
Did you know that amount of self confidence you have can be directly related to how you cope with failure at something?
There is a time in everyone’s life and most often more than one in which we fail miserably and you won’t find one person walking the Earth that can say that they have never failed or made a mistake. High self esteem comes not with the mistake itself, but rather how you deal with it and there are two different theories or ways people deal with failure or mistakes. The successful person learns from their mistakes, takes them, reviews them, and then decides how to change so that the same mistake does not happen again. The unsuccessful person beats themselves up over being a normal human being and will likely fail again because they are too hard on themselves and have unrealistic expectations. The best way to handle a mistake or failure is to really examine what happened to cause the mistake. Is it something that was beyond control, something that can be learned from or something that should be avoided all together? If you never look at the mistake and evaluate, you will likely continue to make the same ones over and over again. If you made a bad business decision or blew your chances with a great new guy or girl, question it and find out why. What made it a mistake or bad decision? Question other people and really look at the facts. When you do this you are correcting the problem and learning. Everyday is a learning experience in life and every situation should be embraced as such. You can also learn from the mistakes and success of other people around you. Seek out people that are outgoing, successful or whatever you long to be and watch them to see their behaviors, actions and attitudes. You can model yourself after other people and it is a proven fact that you take on the personality of those that you are around. That is the reason that it is so important to maintain a positive and healthy support group for yourself (see the confidence and friends article). Everyone is going to make mistakes and every once in a while will fail miserably. Look at any actress, scholar or professional, they all have stories of failure in their background. They have become successful not because they never make mistakes, but because of their positive and ‘can do’ attitude. Take failure as a learning experience and change your terminology to this as a learning curve instead of a chance to beat yourself up!
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