Dating Idol Week 3

I was in a great mood all day. I even told the girls at lunch today what I had done. Katie spat out her drink when I enlightened them. She was ecstatic, and so was Beth. They gave me the usual drill about looks, personality, job, etc.

Claire was a little more reserved. She advised me to be careful, which she always does. I think there was a lurker or something in her past online experience. I didn’t ask though, I didn’t want it to spoil my slight optimism on the topic.

When I got home tonight, my bubble was a little bit “bursted".

I think I’m going to coin the new word!!

Bryan had sent a loooong email, which I didn’t read, Greg had sent a joke and then I had bills. Yuck.

No new replies were worth looking at twice. Claire’s response bothered me a little more than I cared to admit. When the other girls left, she pulled me aside and warned me to be careful, and all of the rigmarole friends do before meeting someone new. It kind of annoyed me, but now she has me worked up. Should I postpone until I know he isn’t a freak or keep on with my optimism? Afterall, we are going to be in a public place.

Dating Idol - Day 16

Do I want to be attached to someone so badly, that I might be jeopardizing my safety?

Claire’s comments, although I’m sure she meant to just help me, kept me tossing and turning all night. Tomorrow is the big date, and I don’t know if I have the balls to go through with it OR the balls to cancel.

I don’t know what to do.

And this wasn’t one of those times where I could consult mom.

She doesn’t know jack about computers and the “new” way of dating. She would poo poo the idea on merit alone...or lack of merit she would say. If you can’t meet someone in person, there is something wrong.

Maybe that’s where my thinking on the subject came from. Mom’s strong opinion has clouded me.

Should I cancel and look in some other places?

Is Claire just pessimistic and being overly gray about the issue or am I being lax, with only knowing Bryan for a few days?

Maybe I’ll flip a coin tomorrow to give me the answer.

Dating Idol - Day 17

I’m not sure how to view the coin toss. I won, since I picked the “go on the date” option. However, the date itself was such a disaster, I’m sure I’m the loser.

Whether it was from the gray cloud of Claire’s pessimism, or my own reservations, I didn’t put much effort in to presenting myself. And that alone put me in a bad mood, since I usually take a few pains to look good for a date.

I grabbed a cute outfit, threw on some matching shoes at least, and then gently reapplied the makeup. It was only dinner and a movie, so I didn’t want to overdo it anyway. Huh.

I met Bryan in the mall where the movie theater was, so I could escape if I needed to. Bryan showed up in what I would call grungy grunge. He was wearing what had once been a t-shirt, but the sleeves had been ripped off and matching shorts were frayed at the hem and covered in remnants of a paint job gone bad.

My pants and shirt were well overdone compared to this!!

After the awkward greeting, he asked if I was hungry, which I was. He had mentioned Mexican before, so I was thinking the cute little getup in the mall. Imagine my surprise when he turned to the food court and got in line at Taco Bell.

Since I knew where this was probably going, I got in a separate line and just ordered my own food.

I had to chuckle once we sat down. Claire was worried? Over this? And it gets better. I bit into my taco supreme and heard chairs rustling.

Hey, Bryan. Bryan told his friends about our “date” and invited them along. And these three apes were dressed like him too, in matching scruffy shirts and shorts.

Can this date get any better….oh yeah, it does. Stay tuned for part II.

Dating Idol - Day 18

The disaster date, part II is more humorous.

By now, I knew this pseudo date was down the tubes and I could try and get out of it, or I could go with it and hang with some guys.

After the foursome polished off 10 tacos each, and some other various items, it was time to head to the theater. Thank God the action flick that was out I was interested in seeing anyway, since I doubted this group was up for anything more.

I rolled with it, paid my own ticket, of course, and sat between this burly group of pseudo men on my pseudo date.

I say pseudo men because Bryan may have said and looked like he was 31, but he sure as hell didn’t act like it!

I rolled with the night until they started picking out women and who they would try for.

Excuse me, I’m sitting right here???

I had enough when Bryan pointed out one he thought was hot. I bit my lip, smiled nice, and excused myself to the bathroom.

Yeah, I didn’t go back.

The $8 ticket loss was well worth the savings in the headache I know was bound to happen if I had stayed.

What a loser!!!

Dating Idol - Day 19

Work was such a drag today. I don’t know if it was because it was Monday, or it was cloudy, or because of my bad date still hounding me. Literally.

Bryan had the nerve to keep sending me IM’s asking what happened and where did I go.

I replied back, are you serious? And he had the audacity to tell ME that it was rude to walk out.

I said a big F – U and clicked off. I blocked him.

Greg slid in and said hi, which I had to be careful and reply nicely back to him. He couldn’t help it if he had the same XY chromosomes as the other loser.

I logged off and sat looking at my profile. Should I delete it and end the torture now? If I deleted it, was I relegating myself to spinsterhood or was there hope in the real world? My last efforts online were bust, and I just didn’t have it in me to waste more time.

I deleted my online dating profile.

One less arena to have bad luck in!!

Time for bed.

Dating Idol - Day 20

I love my girlfriends. Who else can you go out with on a Tuesday night, have half-priced margaritas and bitch about men? They definitely made my sour mood turn a little sweeter. And I spilled about my horrible date and the fact that I gave up on online dating.

Surprise surprise, Claire seemed to be the only happy one about that!

There was a chorus of – “You didn’t try it long enough” or “Give it another shot, you only tried twice” or “Come on, you give up too easily.”

I wasn’t swayed.

They knew not to argue with me over the fact that Bryan was a first class jerk. I think they even threw in a little pity, which I did not want, a lot of agreement, which I did want and some hearty here here’s when we did tequila shots over it. And now that I mention it, I have a headache brewing from the shots I did.

I’m retiring – not only from online dating, but the awake world. I’m going to forget about the name Bryan and concentrate on my pillow instead.

Dating Idol - Day 21

Claire and I were on fire and in a mood tonight. I know I needed to let off some steam. I worked overtime three days in a row and wanted to let my hair down. Claire had a crappy week working at the hospital, so she was game too.

Secretly, I think we were celebrating our sucky experiences with online men, but it was never mentioned aloud!

Back at the table, she had a proposition for me. No, not like that. I’m not crossing to the lesbian side after a couple of recent bad dates.

She suggested something she saw on TV for us. At first, I thought she must be joking, but she was dead serious.

A man fast.

A man fast?? I asked. What the hell is that? I have a brother, a dad – I can’t ignore them!

She tells me men fasting allows you to focus on you. Do what you want, when you want, and don’t cloud it up with trying to lure, attract or impress any man. Forget about what the non-essentials (the essentials are related by blood or sign your paychecks) think, say or do.

Men fasting means no dating and no looking even! I don’t know what I was thinking, but I agreed. We made the spit promise like we did back in 4th grade.

So, no men for me for a while I guess.

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