Why Would You Want To Be Dating The Enemy
Dating the enemy is a game men and women play all the time. You want to date them, you are attracted to them, but you want to do it on your terms?
This happens to women more than men as they tend to view dating differently. You never know who the special someone you are going to meet will be so if you find yourself having an 'us against them’ attitude you need to read this article.
First, find out how they feel about you. Men have the same emotional needs as women. You may find they like you and once you get to really know them you will like them too. You have a lot to offer to them once they get to know you.
Second, take the time to really get to know him. You may have ideas about this person that you are totally wrong on. Find out what their values are and what they are really like as a person.
How many times have you heard about someone’s ‘reputation’ and formed an opinion only to get to know them a bit and realise their ‘reputation’ is completely unfounded? It happens all the time.
Third, ask yourself this question - can I get past what I don't like?
Once you know what it is you do not like decide if this person is going to be a man you can develop a relationship with. You can only change yourself so if he has characteristics you do not feel you can tolerate you are better off to move on.
Fourth, if you see a possible future then there is no harm continuing to date him if he is willing. You may find that you have a lot of fun and really do like this person the more time you spend together. You never know what someone is really like until you spend more time with them.
Many women naturally put up their defences when it comes to dating men which is why it may feel like dating the enemy.
It is only natural to view dating from an adversarial point of view if you have been hurt in the past but there are a lot of times that women have the wrong idea about someone before they get to know them. They just assume that they are a bad person from hearsay.
If you think of going out as 'dating the enemy' you are not giving either one of you a fair chance. If you are the type of person that has a lot to offer a man, why short change yourself before you even get started. Try to approach every date as a chance to have a good time and be willing to get to know him for his good points as well as his bad ones.
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