Mark from Texas, USA asks
Hello. I would like to start and tell you a little about myself. I am 16 years old, I go to a private school, I make pretty
good grades, I have a slight drug problem and like to smoke weed, but I only do so a couple of times a month. I only smoke on the weekends so it does not conflict with my school work. I have my driver's license and I have my own truck, I am a little overweight and I am about 5 feet 9 inches.
Now on to the reason I am writing to you. There's this girl I like. We just recently have started to hang out. We talk on the phone a few times a week, sometimes for 5 minutes and sometimes for 45 minutes. She hangs out with me just about every weekend.
There are sometimes that I think she likes me. Like last friday she asked me if she could get a ride to the basketball game and she gave me all these excuses for why she couldn't get a ride.
All of my friends think that there is something going on between us.
Well last weekend, I picked her up from her house and we went over to a friends. I started to have a few beers (which she was completely fine with), but she wasn't really talking to me much. I was kind of mad and so I went outside and decided to smoke some pot.
Everyone left that friends house and went to another friends house. So me and this girl got in the car and drove over there. At that time I wasn't really high because it takes a little bit for it to kick in for me.
When we got to the house she still wasn't talking to me, and i got a little depressed so I started to chug beers. I literally had 5 in about 5 minutes and I see her pickup her phone and walk away. I was really out of it at this point so I walked over to where she was and sat on the ground. She got off the phone and I began to tell her how I felt about her. I said something along the lines of I really like you a lot and im sad that you don't like me back.
I have never felt this way about anyone ever in my life. And she said I am really sorry but I just see you as a good friend. Then she called someone else and had them pick her up and went off to
The next day I give her a call and we had a long talk. I apologized for being a jackass and she said not to worry about it, that we were really good friends and she still wants to be good friends.
I still really like her and enjoy every second I spend with her,
whether its on the phone or in person. I have never had a girlfriend, and the way she acts around me is unusual compared other girls. The one thing I am worried about is she likes to talk to older guys. She talks to them a lot and I can't stand seeing her doing it.
She still wants to hang out with me this weekend, and I most certainly don't plan on smoking or drinking. What should I do? I can't stop thinking about her. I really
Sorry to hear about the troubles. You have a couple of issues that we should address.
It sounds to me like the young lady likes you as well. She is too willing to hang out with you and spend time together. She may just not be ready for a full blown relationship or commitment at the moment.
Another issue is the fact that you are smoking weed. You say that she doesn't know, but you would be surprised. This is a huge turn off and red flag for many people, especially
respectable young women. You need to stop now before it turns into an addiction that you are unable to control.
Believe me I have worked with addicts (in the counseling field) that have spent years addicted and lost everything from shelter, relationships to their lives. Most times they start with weed every once in a while and before they know it they are stealing to support their addiction.
STOP NOW - or you will never have a lasting, meaningful relationship.
As for the young lady you might want to make yourself a bit inaccessible for a little while. Be busy when she calls or when you see her (this may be difficult - but it works like a charm).
People want what they cant have! Try it! You sound like a great person with a lot to offer. Hang in there and let us know how you get on!