Kari from NY, United States asks
I'm an all around good girl. I don't lie to my parents. I don't really misbehave. My average in school is 103. I've never really had any interests toward boys, until my junior year.
The guy's name is Mark and I've known him since freshmen year. He gets by in the institute with 85s and 90s but a lot of the time, he's a troublemaker and kind of like a player. He actually came to class with a hickey on his neck.
I liked him but he found out and he asked me out but I said no because my parents don't want me to date until I'm out of high school.
Now he asked me out again and said that he did a lot just to impress me, like getting 101 average, taking up music, joining sports teams and clubs. I didn't know that he liked me back that much.
I want to say yes so bad but I can't lie to my parents and date him behind their backs. And they won't let me date him either. What should I do?
You are in sort of a dilema. Have you approached your parents and explained that you would like to be able to go to dinner or a movie with a boy. Nothing too late or maybe even with other friends (might be a good way to approach it).
In my opinion, if you talk with your parents, because you sound so responsible and mature, they might rethink their restrictions. I applaud you for being honest and such a wonderful person.
Now with that being said, young men who are classified as players can get you in trouble. This doesnt mean that they can not change, but my advice to you is give him some time to see if he goes back to his old ways before going out with him. Time will tell you just how much he really changed, as anyone can speak the words, but can they stick to them?
Good luck Sweetie, and please come back any time!