February 2009


Here are your questions for February 2009.

Len from PA, United States asks

I went for a drink for the first time with a wonderful lady I met on line. How can I tell if she was interested?

Sissy says

Hello,

The first indication is the fact that she went for a drink tells me that she is somewhat interested. Another good sign is that she stayed for the entire date!

Ask her out again and that will tell you all you need to know! But, I would be willing to bet she will say YES!

Good luck and let me know how it turns out!

Sissy

Jessicah from Nairobi, Kenya asks

I am 17 turning 18 by march 15 next year. My boyfriend is 18 by also march 16 next year he will be 19. I love him very much but one common problem he has is he loves to have sex and am afraid of being dumped with sti's while he claims to be protecting his territory.

Please help i dont want to lose him sissy and thanks alot for everything

Sissy says

Hi Jessicah,

I am sorry, I am not 100% sure of the problem. I think you are worried about contracting a disease. I will tell you this and if you learn this early you will be way ahead of the game. You must ensure your safety, no one else will.

Males think with their hormones at that age and are reckless. Just like they drive their car reckless, they have sex the same way. Protect yourself and if you lose him, he is not a very good guy!

He should love you and your feelings, not having sex with you. Stand your ground, you do not want to live with a disease for the rest of your life. And with some of the diseases it could be a short life.

Listen to that little voice inside of you!

Good luck

Sissy

Serenity from NC, United States asks

I have been dating a guy for 6 months now. He is 54 and I am 48. We see each other once or twice a week (and usually with activities with our children). I have asked several times for more time for just the two of us but he seems to be perfectly happy with how things are. Even on the days neither of us have our children, he is content staying at home by himself rather than wanting to see me.

I am positive he is faithful. We talk on the phone every night and he says he loves me.

My question is this.....Is it normal to only want to see the one you love once or twice a week? and mostly with activies with the children?

Sissy says

Hi Serenity,

It sounds to me like that is just his personality. He may need his private time, but he must understand your needs as well. Speak openly with him about it and tell him that this is a real problem for you. You need alone time with him. He may be so set in his ways that he is unwilling to change at this point, at that time you must make the decision of whether you can live with this or not.

Personally, I would wonder what he does in all that alone time at home, just ask him! Good luck and let me know if there is anything else I can help you with.

Sissy

Jason from United Kingdom asks

Hey Sissy,

My name's Jason and I'm 15 years old. My problem's quite complicated....well.. to me. There's this girl at school that I REALLY like. We're good friends and she's really nice but when I'm talking to her while I'm with other friends she seems alot more interested in my friends and it seems like she's trying to flirt with them even though most of them have girlfriends. She literally ignores me when we aren't alone.

Another problem is that we are slowly drifting apart and we're talking less and less. Most of the time when I see her now I panic and don't know what to say to her anymore so I just stay on the sidelines as she talks to my friends.

I'm new to this sort of thing and I don't know how to ask her out. That is of course IF I should ask her out.

Please help me Sissy I need your advice

Sissy says

Hi Jason,

I hate to say it, but it sounds like she could be interested in one of your friends. If you really are interested in her, write her a note and ask her out. Just walk up to her hand her the note and walk away. Let her do the calling, emailing or contacting otherwise (be sure and put all your contact info in the note). Then you will know for sure. I would suggest doing this to put your mind at ease! If she is not interested there are 2 more of her where she came from - I promise you!

There are lots of others and you just need to start looking.

Good luck, and please let me know if there is anything else I can do for you.

Sissy

Kari from NY, United States asks

I'm an all around good girl. I don't lie to my parents. I don't really misbehave. My average in school is 103. I've never really had any interests toward boys, until my junior year.

The guy's name is Mark and I've known him since freshmen year. He gets by in the institute with 85s and 90s but a lot of the time, he's a troublemaker and kind of like a player. He actually came to class with a hickey on his neck.

I liked him but he found out and he asked me out but I said no because my parents don't want me to date until I'm out of high school.

Now he asked me out again and said that he did a lot just to impress me, like getting 101 average, taking up music, joining sports teams and clubs. I didn't know that he liked me back that much.

I want to say yes so bad but I can't lie to my parents and date him behind their backs. And they won't let me date him either. What should I do?

Sissy says

Hi Kari,

You are in sort of a dilema. Have you approached your parents and explained that you would like to be able to go to dinner or a movie with a boy. Nothing too late or maybe even with other friends (might be a good way to approach it).

In my opinion, if you talk with your parents, because you sound so responsible and mature, they might rethink their restrictions. I applaud you for being honest and such a wonderful person.

Now with that being said, young men who are classified as players can get you in trouble. This doesnt mean that they can not change, but my advice to you is give him some time to see if he goes back to his old ways before going out with him. Time will tell you just how much he really changed, as anyone can speak the words, but can they stick to them?

Good luck Sweetie, and please come back any time!

Sissy

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