Ryan from MI, United States asks
Theres this girl at scool that I like and I get really nervous around her. I dont know what to say or how to start a conversation up. We small talked a couple of times, and I think she might like me because of how she acts and she always gives me a little smile but I just never know what to say because I'm a really shy individual.
So my questions are as follows:
1. Whats a good way to start a good coversation and how do I keep that conversation going?( this is the part im really bad at).
2. How can I tell if she likes me back?
3. What are the signs I should look out for if she does/doesnt like me?
4. How/when should I ask her out if I think she likes me?
5. Where should I take her?
6. What are some good conversation tips.
7. If she does go out with me how do i get her to find me interesting and not appear stupid?
I appreciate any and all advice.
I understand your feelings and it sounds like you are on the verge of breaking free of that "shy" hold that takes over so many people. I will now focus on answering your questions:
What are the signs I should look out for if she does/doesnt like me? How can i tell if she likes me back?
When you walk into the room or approach her direction if she seems warm and inviting it is a good sign that she is interested. Gestures such as open arms (not crossed), facing your direction, smiling etc are good signs. Things that would not be good signs are if she turned away without smiling or seemed to avoid you.
How/when should I ask her out if I think she likes me?
You will have to watch for the right opportunity. It may be that
you walk her way and casually speak to her the first time or so. After that you might say a few more words (pretty day, too windy today, ...) Lead into a conversation slowly - as that will do a couple of things. 1. increase your comfort 2. help break the ice with her. After you have done those things it is a matter of walking up and saying would you like to go out, get a bite to eat or catch a movie. If you just cant bring yourself to speak the words write a note and hand it to her (walk off but make sure you have included contact info).
Where should I take her?
It's hard to say because I am not sure of whether you live in a big or small town. A movie, dinner or sports type date (bowling, tennis...) are always safe bets.
What are some good conversation tips?
Talk about things that are common to the both of you. Local
news, happenings, school, teachers, construction in the area, upcoming events, plans/goals... Plan this ahead and even rehearse.
If she does go out with me how do i get her to find me interesting and not apear stupid?
I am not sure it is possible for you to appear stupid, because
you are very well articulated and a bright individual. Rehearse
conversation and go over possible happenings, comments and other
things that could be spoken or happen on the date. It will help
ease your mind and prepare you. Also remember she will probably be nervous too! Try to make her feel comfortable and just go with the flow!!
I hope this helps you and good luck! Let me know how it goes!