Ryann from Nevada, United States asks
I have a guy friend who I like (Hes my neighbor too). My problem though is that he is engaged.Him and his fiance do not live
together and they have no date set for their wedding. She also still has 4 years of school in a different city, and he is not going with her.
Just recently I was house sitting and he called me every single night and we would talk for hours. I would ask him why he would call me and he said that he didnt want me to be lonely.
He flirts with me and I flirt back. When ever he is at my house he will sit right next to me and our legs will be touching, and he doesnt move his away. He is always teasing me and playfully hitting me. He also does this thing where I will hand him something and there is plenty of room for him to grab it without our hands touching but he touches my hand anyways.
We ocassionaly go places together(without his fiance). People who meet him for the first time think he likes me because they say he just gives off the vibe that he does. They say they see the way he looks at me and it says it all.
So my questions are these
1) Does he like me?
2) Should I tell him I like him?
3) How do I go about doing that with out ruining our friendship?
4) Am I horrible for liking a man whos taken and who I believe likes me back?
Thank You so much for your answer, I really appreciate it.
From your comments I do believe that your neighbor is more interested in you than just not wanting you to be alone. He is definitely trying to determine whether his feelings are mutual. He has every classic sign of a man interested in a woman.
To answer your question as to whether or not that you are horrible, I do not believe so. If he were married it would be different, we simply can not control who we fall for.
Now with that being said, after you express your feelings to him I also believe that you should tell him that you will not carry on a relationship with him at all until the other woman is out of the picture.
Do not settle for second best! Good luck and let us know how it turns out!